🔥Fireside Chat: The 5-word Life Upgrade
What. If. It. Was. Easy?
I asked my wife two days ago during lunch.
She barely enjoyed her meal as she shared about how overwhelmed she felt by all the stuff she had to do to launch her upcoming Breath Academy Teachers' Training program:
"I need to create a contract for the clients who paid..
and come up with the curriculum
and I don't know where to start.
and this is my first time doing group coaching
and I'm not sure how to structure it..
and I'm about to do this detox next week..
and need to buy juices and soups..
and the cleaning ladies are coming tomorrow
and I need to prepare the clothes they need to wash..
and come up with content for the course promo..
and also finish a few courses I started..
and UGHRHG!"
and. so. it. went.
Sounds familiar?
We all have our version of "too much on our plate"
In fact, if you're in a position of leadership, coaching or education you have probably turned your life into an anxious attempt to finish a to-do list that only keeps expanding.
And no matter how hard you try to stop it, you often end up biting more than you can chew.
Did you know that most entrepreneurs die of indigestion, not starvation?
Meaning, most people fail because they burn out from taking too many things at once, not from a lack of opportunities.
So anyways..
I looked into my wife's eyes and asked her:
"What if it was easy?...
What if it was all about writing one contract, doodling one client journey and putting aside one clothing bin."
She looked at me like I didn't get it..
Probably upset by my oversimplification of her -obviously difficult- circumstances.
I kept eating my food and she stood up to clean her plate and move onto her tasks.
Funny enough she'd been stuck in overwhelm for a couple of days..
The more she thought about all she had to do, the less she had energy or inspiration to do it.
Scrolling ensued.
Fast forward to this morning I asked her how she was doing.
She said:
"You were right!"
What do you mean? - I asked.
"It was easy.."
"I tidied up the contract and sent it and then it took me 10 minutes to brainstorm a course curriculum I felt excited by and just a couple of extra minutes to put aside the laundry bin."
I smiled.
As some of you know, I've been building a Beta version of "Forged🔥" which is a No-BS, pocketCoach AI where 800+ conversations later it keeps blowing people's minds away.
Forged has quickly moved from "fun, casual gift for a few private clients" to something that is gathering its own organic, viral momentum.
So as I tried to explore how to develop an actual app outside of the OpenAI ecosystem I got overwhelmed by the amount of tools and learning curve that coding, UX, UI, design and tech skills I'd have to learn if I were to bootstrap the whole thing.
Plus, by the time I'd learned them I'm sure AI would have evolved drastically and the whole thing would be obsolete!
I'd estimated at least a 10-18 months development project, a bunch of money and a lot of trials and errors to get a minimum viable product (or basic prototype).
Yet that morning after my meditation I asked myself:
"What would it take to have a working application by the end of the night?"
"What if it was easy"
Well, when we ask ourselves the right questions the universe delivers the right answers and builds bridges towards them.
That evening I had a workable web-based prototype.
I suddenly came across the 80/20 skills, tools and systems that allowed me to shortcut months of struggle into a few hours of learning.
Is it perfect?
Not really, but progress -Not perfection- is the rhythm of nature.
These 5 words showed me something important:
Our addiction to struggle and attachment to our identity and habits get in the way of realizing how simple it can all be in Relationships, Business and even Health.
However, most people don't know whom they would be if they suddenly did not have something (or someone) to worry about.
We use our environments as the perfect excuses we need to feel the emotions we are addicted to feeling...
But that's a conversation for another day!
📕 5min Practice:
Pick an area of your life where you've felt stuck and ask yourself:
What if this was easy?
What would it take for this to be resolved smoothly, today? (Close your eyes and listen.)
And remember:
A problem you struggle finding a solution for is often just a problem created by the wrong questions being asked.
Ask yourself the right question today.
Nico
🙏🏽
PS: If you have not tried "Forged🔥" The PocketAI Coach, please do so by Clicking Here. All I ask is for your feedback.
